Rapid Core Healing Pathways to Growth and Emotional Healing:
Using the unique dual approach of
Family Constellations and Emotional Mind Integration for personal and systemic health.
It’s never too late to
Heal from the Past and
Grow into the Present with
Acceptance and Love.
Chapter 1: Rapid Core Healing: A New Approach to Psychological Health…… 29
Chapter 2: Discovering Pathways to Rapid Core Healing……….. 49
Chapter 3: The Roots of Our Knowledge……….. 61
Chapter 4: The Strengths and Gaps of Former Psychotherapy Approaches…… 79
Chapter 6: Psychological Research and Its Challenges……….. 111
Chapter 7: Pathways for Healing Trauma……….. 129
Chapter 8: Emotional Mind Integration……….. 143
Chapter 9: Pathways for Healing with EMI……….. 153
Chapter 10: EMI Transcript Case Study……….. 163
Chapter 11: A Variety of EMI Solutions……….. 171
Chapter 12: Family Constellations……….. 185
Chapter 13: Family Constellations Development……….. 211
Chapter 14: Family Constellations Theory and Philosophy……….. 223
Chapter 15: Family Constellations: Case Study and Brief Examples……….. 237
Chapter 16: Neuroscience, Brain Plasticity and RCH……….. 247
Chapter 17: RCH for Brief Psychotherapy……….. 263
Chapter 18: RCH Case Studies……….. 271
Chapter 19: Relationships: RCH Couples’ Therapy……….. 289
Chapter 20: RCH Couples’ Case Studies……….. 307
Chapter 21: A New Approach to Psychological Healing……….. 315
Chapter 22: Disease and Levels of Healing……….. 325
Chapter 23: The Nature of the Mind……….. 335
Chapter 24: The Toxic Story……….. 341
Chapter 25: The Power of Suggestion……….. 359
Chapter 26: The Natural Impulse for Balance……….. 367
Chapter 27: RCH for Sexual Abuse……….. 393
Chapter 28: RCH for Domestic Violence……….. 419
Chapter 29: Discovering Healing Pathways……….. 423
Chapter 30: RCH for Personal Development……….. 433
Abbreviations List……….. 437
About the Author……….. 447
by Professor Gordon Emmerson, author of Resource Therapy
Charles Darwin, in On the Origin of Species, laid out his view of the evolution of the animal kingdom. Multi-generational change leads to an easily recognisable change in the species. I am amazed at the speed of change in psychotherapy during the past few years. Freud, Jung, Adler, Federn and others distilled some basic views of psychotherapy near the end of the 19th Century and the beginning of the 20th Century. Half a century later, Rogers, Ellis, Skinner, and others took psychotherapy in different directions with their own views of personality and change.
None of the views of these early therapists were really complex. While some authors were prolific, their views of personality were rather simple. The early psychodynamic therapists saw that events occurring earlier in life formed psychological health and they believed that to deal with today’s issues, was important to become aware of past connected events. The phenomenologists believed that the agent for change was in providing an opportunity for reflection, understanding and acceptance within the walls of the therapy room. The cognitive behaviourists believed that behavioural change came from reframing and homework, changing how one thinks about an issue while using behavioural practices.
What is similar in all these approaches is the notion that a core set of interventions would work with every client. This is best exemplified by psychoanalysts. Basically, the same techniques are used with every client, regardless of the issues that are presented. While some cognitive behaviour therapy (CBT) therapists have adopted newer techniques, such as mindfulness, the basic techniques used with each issue, are reframing and homework. Person-centred therapists (phenomenologists) use active listening, self-disclosure and a small number of basic techniques with almost every client. These early therapies are overly simplistic.
The human personality is complex and the types of issues that are presented by clients are complex. This complexity eludes the simple vision and techniques of earlier therapeutic approaches.
While psychotherapy evolved slowly for the first hundred years, more recently, there has been an explosion of new therapies and new therapeutic techniques. Several new therapies are introduced every year, some simple in nature like the initial ones, and some more complex.
Where the evolution of the species has been slow from a human-time perspective, the evolution of therapy has increased in speed exponentially.
Many of the new approaches are mutations that will be lost, but some show real promise to evolve further into approaches that can address the complex nature of personality and therapeutic issues.
Yildiz Sethi, in Rapid Core Healing Pathways to Growth and Emotional Healing: Using a unique dual approach of Family Constellations and Emotional Mind Integration, presents her contribution to the array of new therapies. Hers is not a simplistic approach. She draws from a number of other approaches to define a set of techniques for clients presenting a vast array of issues.
Existentialists see three worlds in which we live: the Eigenwelt, our personal inner world; the Mitwelt, our social world; and the Umwelt, the physical world around us of mountains, stars, and food. Yildiz Sethi sees therapeutic issues springing from the personal world of choice and experience, or from a social world that is sometimes multi-generational.
She defines these as:
“1. Personal, individual issues that have their source in life events, choices, conflicts, distress and dilemmas.
- Systemic issues that have their source in the relational, psychological and emotional impacts coming from their experiences in their family-of-origin.
These include any deeply ingrained patterns or traumas from previous generations and is unconscious, for the most part.” She bases her therapeutic interventions on the distinction about which of these two bases a client’s issues arise from.
Sethi covers a range of topics in this book. She defines her new therapeutic approach, outlines the history of therapy, poses a definition and understanding of trauma and defines amnesia. General case examples are given along with some case transcripts.
She defines healthy beliefs and unhealthy beliefs, healthy emotions and unhealthy emotions. “Unhealthy beliefs coexist with unhealthy emotions. These are fragile, defensive, and overly sensitive. In short, healthy beliefs and feelings move us towards contentment and happiness, while unhealthy ones render us dissatisfied and unhappy.”
Sethi presents what she calls an emotional body map; i.e., when clients experience the feeling of restrictive head pressure, it means that they can’t believe what they are experiencing, and when they experience the feeling of a throat blockage or pressure, it means that they can’t express themselves or speak. Sethi also presents step-by-step procedural indications for assisting clients with these types of issues. She presents her approach to couples’ therapy in detail.
This book includes testimonials about her and her work; it has overviews of case work, including a general synopsis for each session and a discussion of some core issues relating to therapy and therapeutic intervention, such as hypnosis, abreaction, working in the present or past and the nature of the mind.
This book is broad-ranging. Readers may decide to adopt Sethi’s techniques or they may use this book to gain a better understanding of the complexity of the human psyche. It is positive additions, like this book, to the evolving array of works that contribute to the now-rapid evolution of understanding the personality and to helping clients attain real change. It is a step up from the one-size-fits-all therapy that, for far too long, was all that was available to therapists looking for avenues to help their clients with change.
by Francesca Mason Boring, Author and Facilitator of Family Systems Constellation
Rapid Core Healing Pathways to Growth and Emotional Healing: Using a unique dual approach of Family Constellations and Emotional Mind Integration by Yildiz Sethi is a valuable contribution for those involved in personal development and healing, both as practitioners and human beings.
Yildiz is an experienced Psychotherapist, Hypnotherapist, Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) Practitioner, Family Systems Constellation Facilitator and Trainer, Author and former Science Teacher. She has a commitment to learning and the refinement of her approach in the journey of healing using rapid core healing is one positive result.
Rapid Core Healing (RCH) is a dual approach combining Emotional Mind Integration (EMI) and Family Constellations (FC). Providing a gentle challenge for practitioners to examine the limitations of loyalty to a single school (or philosophy) of healing, Yildiz creates an interesting comparison of approaches utilising complex case studies. Introducing Family Constellations and Emotional Mind Integration is an essential refinement in the provenance of modern psychotherapy and makes this book engaging and thorough.
Reflections on the evolution of mental health services from psychoanalytic and psychodynamic methodologies to the development of cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) and the subsequent emergence of a variety of methodologies that sprang from a humanistic approach, provides us with an interesting summary of the efficacy and deficits of each new step in the development of this still-advancing discipline of psychotherapy. At the root of most approaches is a commitment and hope to support those fellow human beings in pain, as well as the prospect that each of us might be better equipped to step away from the barriers that limit our ability to live to our full potential and participate fully in all that life has to offer us. Enriched with case studies, provocative references and a well-grounded investigation, Rapid Core Healing is a book that should be read to provoke inquiry. What works?
Yildiz points to a more recent understanding of brain plasticity as an incentive to re-evaluate how we ‘define’ mental health issues. The old paradigm of the brain being ‘hard-wired’ is outdated and that gives us reason for optimism.
Rapid Core Healing Pathways to Growth and Emotional Healing is courageous in chronicling the merger of pharmaceuticals with CBT and the influence of the National Health Service (NHS) in the UK, US and Australia in producing data that only serves the pharmaceutical industry.
Using only quantitative data, pharmaceutical companies profit and the exclusion of qualitative data increasingly calls into question whether the profit of the client might be a more relevant and ethical focus.
Developing progress in the treatment of clients with approaches, such as Rapid Core Healing, Family Constellation and Emotional Mind Integration, has met with some resistance as a result of loyalties to one specific method. This systemic loyalty has occasionally created a diversion from what Yildiz eloquently calls, quite simply, “a successful healing path”.
What is most powerful within this insightful text is the encouragement of the author for therapists to live a life of example. If the suggestion is that a client should be more social, does the therapist also have a rich social life? What is the attitude of the therapist? If it is optimistic, this has an impact…if it is negative, exhausted, uninspired or without spiritual compass, the outcome for the client is tenuous.
Yildiz Sethi has made a generous contribution to the expansion of the healing path.
by Bill Mannle, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and Gestalt Therapist, Connecticut, USA; International Trainer and Facilitator in Systemic Family Constellations
I was honoured when Yildiz Sethi asked me to write the foreword for her new book, Rapid Core Healing Pathways to Growth and Emotional Healing, or RCH.
I first met Yildiz in 2007 at the 6th International Intensive for Systemic Constellations in Bernried, Germany. There to further our training in Family Constellations, we often found each other in the same groups. I was instantly struck by Yildiz’s insatiable curiosity and determination to find solutions to deep human suffering. She was clearly intent on overcoming any limitations and in challenging notions about the nature of healing emotional and psychological wounds.
After the 2010 Intensive, Yildiz and I lost contact. She was back in Australia with a busy psychotherapy practice and supervising training groups on systemic constellations. I was back in the States with a growing psychotherapy practice and leading seminars in Family Constellations in the USA, Mexico and Europe.
I was pleased when our paths crossed again in 2013. I was invited to be on the Faculty of the 3rd Australasian Intensive for Systemic Constellations in Sydney, Australia. Yildiz, having just come through some personal struggles, was there as a participant, open, eager and committed to her own healing and happiness. This openness, commitment and the desire for clarity are what Yildiz brings to RCH.
It is good to know where we come from. In family constellations, we learn about and reconnect with our ancestors, the events that moved them, that affected their lives and, ultimately, ours. RCH reconnects us with our therapeutic ancestors: Jay Haley, Milton Erickson, Carl Rogers, Murray Bowen, Virginia Satir and Bert Hellinger. Using clear and accessible language, Yildiz reminds us of the fundamental gifts each of these masters contributed to the field of healing.
Yildiz challenges us to see with different eyes, to hear with different ears and to be present in a new way. She takes us on a journey of discovery, clarifying and synthesising the most dynamic therapeutic models of the past 50 years, highlighting the best they have to offer. Citing Norman Doidge, Yildiz challenges the medical model’s assumptions about healing. Believing that people possess the keys to their own healing, she knows that they can unlock the imaginary chains that bind them to their suffering. RCH affirms that the keys are always in our possession and, through a collaborative process between the therapist and the client, we can get to the heart of the matter quickly and safely, thus allowing for clear and effective healing.
In her own words, Yildiz is a “collector, sifter and fine tuner”. To me, she is an adventurer and a warrior. She has mined the modalities of the past and harnessed those of the present to find a profound way of effecting lasting change, allowing clients to make peace with the past and say yes to life.
I am from New England. Of the many riches found here, the sweetest is maple syrup. Each spring the sugary sap rises in maple trees. It is then tapped and boiled down to evaporate all the water until the rich, amber syrup is all that remains.
This is what you hold in your hands; the result of a long journey, a quest through a lifetime of learning, personal healing and experimenting; a tapping into the past and then a boiling down of the essentials until only the best remains.
As helpers and healers, there is nothing we need to do. Yildiz has done the harvesting. The table is set. Enjoy!
by Lyn Macintosh, Clinical Hypnotherapist, NLP Master and Supervisor.
In reading this book, I found myself caught up in the enthusiasm that Yildiz Sethi has for working with her clients. That educated enthusiasm has a goal of helping her clients deal with the issues that often cause people to get into a ‘stuck’ state.
Coupled with experience that has been gained through sessions with countless clients who have a vast range of issues, the author has been even-handed by examining the various modalities that have gained recognition and acceptance by the medical profession and other professional helpers.
She has then provided an insight into another way of working with clients that, to some, would seem ‘outside the box’.
How fortunate we are that she has the courage to challenge the idea of long-term therapy as she presents examples of her use of Rapid Core Healing and Emotional Mind Integration coupled with, when it would be an advantage to do so, Family Constellations.
Yildiz Sethi is right when she asserts that her clients have been her primary teachers.
If something works, it makes sense for those unaware of the process to investigate fully the workings of something that may be new to them. After all, it is the welfare of the client that is important, not the ego of the therapist.
I regularly use Ego State Therapy with clients and, in reading this book, I can see how on-track the author is in assisting the client to get to the core issue of their problem.
To quote the author, “Rapid Core Healing is a deeper, direct and solution-focussed approach that is respectful of the client as a fellow human being, that is basically humanistic while incorporating aspects of solution-focus and problem-solving. This approach is brief and cost effective”.
The examples provided illustrate how quickly fresh insight can be gained that can lead to a change of perception and then behaviour.
A lot of thought has gone into this well-considered book that hopefully will encourage the reader to embrace a methodology that has great merit and add it to the reader’s grab bag of skills.
Rapid Core Healing Pathways to Growth and Emotional Healing represents a lifetime of curiosity, observation, study, research, practice and fine-tuning of philosophies and methodologies to promote knowledge and emotional and mental wellbeing. Coming from a science and teaching background that includes spiritual curiosity, I have always been interested in how things work, at both the micro and macro levels.
I am grateful for the support of Satish Sethi, my life partner, and the encouragement and input of Lyn Macintosh, a friend, colleague and former supervisor, in creating this book.
I realised in talking to colleagues that I have a lot to share that may be of benefit to the psychotherapeutic world and also to the greater population, in terms of better mental health outcomes; hence the birth of the modality, Rapid Core Healing (RCH).
In moving from the teaching of physics and chemistry at school into counselling at a crossroads in my life, my intention was to increase my own happiness and to assist others to do the same.
I was interested in assisting those who were ready to break out of their patterns and feelings that bound them.
This set me on my own journey of discovery, in counselling, Neuro Linguistic Programming, Hypnotherapy, Ego State Therapy, Family Constellations and finally in the development of Rapid Core Healing.
During this process of development, I was a part-time educator of counsellors, specialising in methods of counselling. This increased my appreciation of the value of each psychotherapeutic modality. Further, through my sixteen-year experience as a supervisor, colleague of counsellors and hypnotherapists and, most of all as a counsellor to a great group of clients, I have discovered a way of working that is effective in locating the source of issues quickly, and provides healing pathways rapidly, which is the essence of what I share in this book.
The Rapid Core Healing process draws threads from essential elements of the major therapeutic modalities of the past and it still holds true with present-day, cutting-edge developments in psychotherapy, neuroscience and epigenetics. This has formed a dual, adaptable modality that is effective for a high percentage of the issues that are presented for psychotherapeutic intervention.
In order to present this information, I have looked at what holds the mental health industry back from engaging and utilising the possibilities that are available, if only they would step outside of their traditional models to view human beings in a different way; in a way that allows them to locate the innate healing pathways that are present in human beings for recovery and resilience for a large proportion of the population.
Put aside your ideas and assumptions, at least for a while, and allow in new ways of viewing the human psyche through the philosophy, case studies and techniques of Rapid Core Healing. This will be a journey of discovery as to what is already available in the human spirit for recovery and healing.
Rapid Core Healing (RCH) pathways to growth and emotional healing for personal and systemic issues using Emotional Mind Integration (EMI) and Family Constellations (FC) is aimed at people who help people, in particular, counsellors, psychotherapists, hypnotherapists, mental health professionals, alternative therapists and those who are interested in understanding the human psyche. It provides clearly defined pathways that may be utilised to enable psychological healing relatively rapidly for a large proportion of the public. This book includes essential knowledge from the past as well as the latest from neuroscience and epigenetics, and it presents psychological developments in the present in a way that is a brief and effective therapeutic approach.
This book may be a valuable addition to psychotherapeutic knowledge, education and development of those involved in counselling, psychotherapy, family constellations, hypnotherapy, personal development and growth. The modality of RCH may be an important step forward in the treatment of a wide range of relational and emotional issues. It may also be an important resource for those interested in understanding the human psyche and for those wanting to know the difference between psychology and the wide range of psychotherapies that are available in an ever-expanding market place.
Yildiz Sethi is an ex science teacher who is a psychotherapist, clinical hypnotherapist and family constellation facilitator and trainer. She has developed Rapid Core Healing and Emotional Mind Integration through practise with clients in dealing with both the individual and systemic elements of their issues in a holistic way.
RCH is a dual approach that works in a seamless way with both the individual and the systemic aspects of human experience.
Sethi believes that it is time for a more integrated, holistic and effective approach to mental health and seeks to put aside divisions and myths around psychotherapeutic approaches in promoting wellness.
In RCH, natural pathways to healing are revealed that draw on innate impulses that are present in human beings for assimilation, recovery and improved wellbeing. This book demonstrates how EMI and family constellation processes may be used in RCH to enable effective therapeutic resolutions in an effective and respectful manner. The process is experiential, solution-focussed, person-centred and emotionally focussed in engaging many senses simultaneously.
RCH consists of EMI and family constellations in addressing individual and systemic aspects of human experience involving conflicts, dysfunctions, trauma, unhealthy family patterns and relationships.
EMI is an approach that can quickly locate and safely access the source of an individual’s issue and guide them through the resolution of conflict, trauma and ‘unfinished business’, and facilitate integration into the greater personality.
Family constellations is a methodology developed by Bert Hellinger that is a brief, experiential, solution-focussed modality that assists individuals in coming to a better place within their family system. It also assists in addressing patterns that persist through generations and does not require members of the family to be present. The process may take place in workshops or private sessions. Family constellations assists in creating a better internal connection with the family system to enable better connections with the external world.
RCH is at the forefront of effective brief therapy by providing a revolutionary way of assisting people with trauma and a range of emotional and relational issues, including sexual abuse and domestic violence. In summary, this book is about a new approach to therapy that is brief, thorough and effective.
It includes a summary of how psychotherapy got to this point with some research to show evidence of the developments made so far.
The benefits and shortcomings of the existing psychotherapies, such as humanistic and cognitive behavioural therapies, the traditional medical model and the pharmaceutical industry, along with the problems of psychotherapeutic research, are explored.
Throughout this book, there are case studies to demonstrate the theory, practice and outcomes. The philosophy and practice behind RCH, EMI and FC are presented with the natural healing pathways that may be followed for deep resolutions in a wide range of issues.
Rapid Core Healing: A New Approach to Psychological Health
I introduce pathways to RCH as a fellow human being, a psychotherapist, clinical hypnotherapist, family constellations facilitator and trainer, supervisor, educator and former science teacher. I am also the author of two other personal development books.
The focus of my work has always been on helping myself and others to fulfill our potential in becoming empowered to live more satisfied and meaningful lives. In my earlier years, my intention was to inspire children, through physics and chemistry, to develop and expand their minds and, upon entry into the therapeutic world, this intention shifted to assisting people in improving their inner and, as a result, outer worlds. This broadly includes mental health, relationships and wellbeing.
My entry into psychotherapy has been a fascinating exploration of a wide range of psychological, philosophical and scientific knowledge.
While this continues to inform my clinical private practice, my experience with clients has been the most valuable in informing me about what is effective and therapeutic in facilitating positive change and in assisting them to gain more resilience to navigate their lives. My clients remain my primary teachers.
I join many people who have and are collecting, sifting, fine-tuning and synthesising knowledge and methodologies from the past and present, in order to find the most effective ways to work at providing positive therapeutic outcomes for those who seek better mental health and wellbeing.
Psychotherapists, psychologists and social workers enter a particular school of thought in their training as a result of being schooled in a chosen philosophy and gaining skills with practise. They very often stay within this field, trusting that this is the best or only way to work psychotherapeutically with their clients.
Mental health professionals often maintain a sense of loyalty to their chosen modality that may become a restriction to exploring other ways of working or thinking. In this book, I invite you to come out of your school of thought, at least for a while, and explore what is taking place in terms of innovation and development in the psychotherapy world and the formation of new approaches.
New approaches are taking what is of value from each of the major strands of former approaches and integrating them into new modalities so as to provide a means to improve their effectiveness with clients as mental health professionals continue on their own personal and professional growth paths.
Rapid Core Healing (RCH) is a dual approach of psychotherapy that is composed of Emotional Mind Integration (EMI) and Family Constellations (FC).
I have adopted a largely humanistic philosophical stance in developing RCH in that it is largely person-centred and experiential, while also solution-focussed, psychodynamic and brief.
Through my work with clients, I have discovered that the issues that they face may be divided primarily into two main categories:
- Personal, individual issues that have their source in life events, choices, conflicts, distress and dilemmas.
- Systemic issues that have their source in the relational, psychological and emotional impacts coming from their experiences within their family-of-origin. This includes any deeply ingrained patterns or traumas from previous generations, and is unconscious, for the most part.
I have developed RCH and EMI from the evolution of former approaches with present-day developments and in my personal practice with clients. I have developed EMI from Resource Therapy (2014) and Ego State Therapy (2003), as presented by Gordon Emmerson, and through my own techniques. FC was developed in the 1990s by Bert Hellinger, who is a German psychotherapist. It has continued to evolve and develop into the present day. The combination of EMI and FC is the RCH approach.
From an EMI perspective, human consciousness is comprised of a group of emotional mind (EM) states that come into existence to deal with particular situations that a person encounters during life events.
Many EM states are healthy, adult states that help form a healthy adult consciousness that has the capacity to grow, mature and integrate over a lifespan.
However, other EM states, that I call disturbed EM states, are also formed in the personality during the more disturbing or traumatic periods of life.
Disturbed EM states appear to be frozen and inhibited from the normal, healthy growth, maturation and integration that normal EM states move through organically.
Further, disturbed EM states may be triggered into activation periodically through life events. In otherwise normal and healthy people, these disturbed states take over the personality periodically, depending on the situation, and present as anxiety, depression, fear, anger and others, in erratic and unpredictable ways. We may consider them to be moods or emotional states. They may be triggered into action by specific and often sensory cues in daily life, such as a look, word, smell, tone of voice, location or situation. Disturbed EM states normally reside outside of a person’s conscious awareness.
FC is a philosophy and practice that views the individual in the context of their family system. The family system includes the biological family and former generations. While families are connected fundamentally by genetics and the love that links them as a group, from a FC perspective, there is another field of connection that Dr Albrecht Mahr, a leading trainer and developer in this modality, called the Knowing Field.
This is not simply a DNA connection, but rather another level of connection that links all within a family system through psychosocial, emotional and cultural dynamics.
This is thought, by FC facilitators, trainers, innovators and writers, to take place through the relational bonds that operate between the generations.
These are bonds that connect one generation to the next where shared experiences are felt through relational links. Through these relational bonds, it appears that circumstances, events, loyalties, bonds and entanglements are transmitted through the family group, often in an unconscious group consciousness. This often has a systemic effect on those in the present.
FC acknowledges that systemic information, involving trauma and exclusions, in particular, that could not be resolved by those of former generations, may be felt through the relational bonds by all in the system and, in particular, by those in the present.
So, for example, being born into a system must also involve being part of the felt sense of what is held by the whole family system.
This felt sense links the present to the past and forms a field of connection that may be utilised in the family constellation process.
The process may locate the underlying dynamics and assist in resolving the entanglements that may inhibit or hold individuals back from realising their potential.
So, a child born into a family who were victims of the holocaust, may sense the trauma, sadness or helplessness of their forefathers and mothers, in the same way that those children born to Syrian refugees will undoubtedly sense the tragedy of having to flee their home, for several generations to come. Events have an effect on the individuals concerned and, hence, on those connected to them in the family system. Such felt senses appear to be transferred through relational bonds unconsciously. This is some of the philosophy of FC that is demonstrated repeatedly in family constellation groups and personal sessions. However, as yet, there is little substantial research on this phenomenon, perhaps due to the difficulty of sourcing the tools and strategies required to quantify and measure such experiential processes.
RCH normally takes three-to-five sessions for most people, depending on the complexity of the issue. Frequently, one session is sufficient to achieve a positive change.
Jeremy, 32 years old, came to see me with the intention of coming out of his depression and coming off the antidepressant medication that he had been prescribed by his psychiatrist and taken for the past 10 years. He said that he wanted to find another way to live and to deal with whatever was the cause of his depression. He had read that, with a suitable psychotherapeutic approach, it may be possible to come out of depression.
Jeremy had a good job in the financial industry and a wife and young family. He said that he was frustrated by the fact that his depression was debilitating and made little sense to him, as his life was going well in many practical respects. During the discussion, it seemed that Jeremy had a fairly normal early life with his Mum and Dad and had done well in school and at university.
From a RCH perspective, as the issue of depression was chronic for Jeremy and may have had its roots both in his formative years and the family system, I worked with both his present experiences and his formative years, as well as his family system. I was interested in exploring Jeremy’s depressed EM state pertaining to his personal biography and also his connections to his family system. I used RCH in a range of specific EMI and FC techniques.
EMI was employed to identify and resolve disturbed EM states and FC to deal with systemic issues.
Firstly, I told Jeremy that, as a psychotherapist, I could not be responsible for him coming off his medication, as that was the responsibility of his psychiatrist or general practitioner (GP), but that I was happy to see what would happen through the process of facilitating the resolution of the underlying source of his depression. I told Jeremy that if the process assisted him in his recovery, he would be able to approach his psychiatrist with my business card and let him know that he wished to be weaned off the medication. (The business card was to allow the psychiatrist to contact me, if they wished to, about Jeremy’s therapy, support or progress.)
I used EMI techniques to facilitate the resolution of conflicts that had their source in the biography of Jeremy’s life and FC for those issues that related to his family-of-origin and former generations. After presenting his issue, I invited Jeremy to take part in an EMI process to assist in finding and resolving the source of his depressed EM state. This was done experientially and in a person-centred series of processes through locating the depressed EM state and facilitating its feelings and expression, and discovering its resolutions or solutions
Even though Jeremy had stated that he had a good family history, through the EMI process, it was evident that there were major issues between Jeremy and his father and also with his mother, to some extent. For this reason, I facilitated FC processes over the course of the sessions, to assist him in finding his best resolutions for his connections to his parents and the family system.
As we had formed a good rapport at this point in the first session and he was highly motivated for change, I invited him to take part in the EMI process.
During the EMI process, while focussed on his depressed state, he said he felt numb. Jeremy found it very hard to feel any emotion or sensation in his body. He also found it difficult to visualise. I invited him to allow me to take him on a guided visualisation whereby he was encouraged to notice the sensations in his body. He said that he found guided visualisations difficult, as his awareness remained primarily in his head, for the most part. I asked him to practise what we had done in the guided exploration a few times each day for the forthcoming week, just so that he could get used to being in contact with his body and feelings.
Jeremy reported that he had found it difficult to focus on his body but, nevertheless, he felt that he was beginning to do so and had realised how cut off he was from his feelings and physical sensations.
I invited him to take part in an EMI process.
Through the process, the numb EM state was located and regressed to the first time it came into his life at the age of around six years. He was in the presence of his father who was berating him for some small misdemeanor.
Through the EMI process, we worked with the numb EM state and elicited other strong adult EM states to resolve the stress and vulnerability of the numb six-year-old state.
Through the EMI process, the numb EM state transformed into anger and then sadness. We continued to resolve the anger and sadness with a FC process and an image he had of his father before moving forward in his life to other times when such feelings were present.
A combination of RCH processes were used to accommodate further resolutions, which included an incident with a teacher and also with some bullies at school.
Jeremy reported feeling lighter, but still rather flat. We discussed the fact that he was on medication and how it might be difficult to decipher what truly was his emotional state from what was due to the effects of his medication. Nevertheless, I invited Jeremy to take part in an EMI process to explore his flat EM state. This state regressed to the age of approximately four years old when he was faced with a vision of his father who was extremely annoyed with him. The distressed EM state was so upset that it had decided that he couldn’t do anything to please his father and had given up. This became a flat state.
The EMI process proceeded to resolve the situation of the four-year-old flat EM state, with the support and guidance of appropriate adult EM states. During the process, the flat EM state transformed into a raged EM state. The EMI process guided the raged EM state to express its rage and to give the injustice, blame and shame that he felt from his father right back to him through a RCH process.
Finally, the healthy adult EM states were invited to look after the four-year-old state to continue to look after Jeremy’s best interests as an adult.
At the fourth session, Jeremy was a little disturbed by the feelings of anger that had continued to move through him in waves since the previous session. He spoke of his frustration with his helplessness; not only for himself, but also for the way his had father treated his mother.
In discussing what he knew of his father’s upbringing, Jeremy told me that his father’s Dad had died while he was a young child.
I invited Jeremy to do a RCH process, starting with a mind’s eye (visual) FC process. During the process, I invited Jeremy to imagine his father looking at his own mother and father. During this process, Jeremy said that he felt the deep longing and distress of his father towards the loss of his Dad.
In facing his father in his vision, I guided him through a FC process whereby the layers of anger, sadness and disappointment were appropriately expressed to the vision of his father. Then the newly expressed and empowered states were integrated into the personality of the healthy adult group of strong EM states of Jeremy, the man.
This RCH session was a combination of EMI and FC to introduce and confirm the connections that Jeremy had with the men in his family system. Following this, a process of integrating healthy EM states to the forefront of Jeremy’s personality was facilitated to assist him into the present in a more resilient manner.
Following this, Jeremy did indeed come off his medication, with the guidance of his psychiatrist, and I had a phone call from Jeremy a few weeks after the end of our sessions to tell me: “I was walking during lunch time and noticed a fluttering feeling in my chest. It felt strange and then I realised that perhaps it was… happiness”.
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